Friday, March 23, 2012

How To Protect The Kid Who "Has Everything"

More money, more problems? Perhaps. Today’s Lunch and Learn event, presented by Dr. Marino Carbonell, focused on this very topic. According to Dr. Carbonell, every school and every community has drugs. In poorer areas, the kids might be sniffing glue while the kids in more affluent areas are snorting cocaine. The actual drug is not the issue – so it’s not absolutely necessary to learn everything there is to know about every drug out there.

Here are 9 tips to help your kids grow up safe, healthy and drug free.

  1. Be consistent (“no” means “no” today, tomorrow and the next day). Changing the rules along the way will invite your kids to challenge your rules in the future.
  2. Realize that we have limitations. Our kids have way more energy than we do, so a simple “no” without a complicated explanation will suffice. Don’t engage in debates about your rules.
  3. Understand that if your kids are admitting to any alcohol or drug use – you are only hearing 10% of the story. There is likely greater use than they will admit.
  4. Don’t assume that because your child is smart or does well in school that they are not using alcohol or drugs.
  5. You have plenty of friends. Be a parent to your child, not a friend.
  6. Give direction to your kids, not the other way around.
  7. Remain calm. You don’t need to scream or yell to get your message across. Take a deep breath and be firm.
  8. Start early. Creating an environment where you are in control from the beginning will make your life much easier when your kids become teenagers.
  9. Use your support systems. Reach out to the parents of children your kids spend time with – and work together to create a healthy environment for your children. Start a Parent Peer Group. Informed Families can help. Call us at (305) 856-4886.

Friday, March 2, 2012

Ohio School Shooting Tragedy seems to be a random repeating pattern: Is it Mental Illness and/or a Dysfunctional Society?

How do mental illness and a dysfunctional society feed each other? The Ohio School shooting is not an isolated problem; social problems are tied together. Why didn’t this behavior exhibit itself in a different era? Why is it surfacing now? Where are all of these school shootings coming from? What is causing their perpetuation?

Many times the shooter has some mental problems, but sometimes sane individuals do crazy things in dysfunctional societies. Have you ever had a crazy moment? Roger Mills, PhD used to say, “Normal people do crazy things. We go in and out of mental illness all day long. Our best hope is to recognize it and not act when we are in a crazy moment.”

What do you think?

Thursday, March 1, 2012

When Did You Last Talk With Your Kids About Serious Issues?


Creating safe environments and messages for children is a parent's responsibility. That means standing up for what right.

Do we know what is right? As parents, grandparents and concerned citizens, we must be willing to see what is going on right before our eyes and speak out...Remember the Emperor's New Clothes?

We need to talk to our kids about what is wrong with negative messages in the media and celebrity culture, express our disapproval of youth alcohol and drug use and continue to reinforce positive, healthy behaviors.

When did you last talk with your kids about serious issues?